We Can't Be Present If We're Silent | An Open Letter

We Can't Be Present If We're Silent

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"My heart is broken for our country, for the hopes of our children, for the fights of those who came before us.

I cry at the thought that Black History, American History might be in vain.

This country has had great moments. God has shined His light upon us.

Today, I hope that Great Moments begin in peaceful & progressive conversation. I am willing to be a bridge. I don't mind "These Stones", if they allow me to be a voice for the voiceless.

I am here.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, "Our lives begin to end, the day we become silent about what matters,".

I am here, representing you, because this is what matters."

 

- Chrisette Michele

 

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Love Is Big | Monday Morning Mantra's by Chrisette Michele

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Ever loose faith in love? A bad break-up? A disappointment in life? Maybe you lost a close friend?

Every once in a while something happens and we get discouraged about the existence of love. I wanted to give you a little squeeze around the waist and remind you that even though the world can feel cold at times, love still exists. It’s so important that we see love in the little things. The budding of a flower. The birthing of a child. The waking to a new sunrise. 

Love is bigger than us. Often we have to look for it in the ways that may not be connected to a person but to the very existence of it. Breath. Birds chirping. A warm cup of tea. Let love appear in ways that you didn't look for it before. Search for it in ways that soften your soul. Refresh your mind. Calm your muscles. Calm your spirit. 

Perhaps its with a morning stretch. Perhaps its with a long walk thru nature. Maybe it’s a meal you cook yourself. Experience love by looking for it in ways you never thought of. Before you know it, you’ll be surprised at how surrounded you feel by love.  Love is so available if you would just take the time to seek it out in the simplest ways. It’s big enough to fill every void. It’s great enough to soothe every ache. It’s big if you’re bold enough to seek it in every form. Let it be what makes you smile. Let it be what brings you peace. Allow it to be what warms your soul. Enjoy it and revel in it. 

Open up that broken heart again. Breathe thru those disappointments. Forgive those old hurts and pains. Fill those places with the love you seek and love itself will be attracted to the love you in turn have with in. I promise. 

With Love, 

Chrisette Michele

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January Article | "Wig vs. Fro"

I'm back on the Tube in 2017! | Setting off every first Monday with an installment of "ARTICLES BY CHRISETTE MICHELE"! | I can't be more excited to share my thoughts on natural hair verses Wigs. I get loads of questions, especially face to face at Meet & Greets about my hair. It's AWKWARD TO SAY THE LEAST! Well girls, let's get officially un-comfortable! Here are my answers to all the Q's! Enjoy! & Happy New Year! 

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"How I Write, In 5 Easy Steps" | #WorkLifeWednesdays

Chris? How do you write your blogs?

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Writing is so fun for me. It's even therapeutic. I'm a professional songwriter but blogging is just as challenging. Mostly because of wanting to give consistent material with the same tone, feeling and subject matter. I've enjoyed the process of blog writing. It's really helping me to release the creativity I harbor in between albums.

 

Here's my blog writing process in five fun steps:


1. Just a thought - I might suddenly get the answer to a question someone asked me. It might just spark in my mind. Or, I might be reading a great book (I'm ALWAYS READING) and I'm suddenly super inspired to write down an idea. Don't take those delicious sudden bursts of thought for granted. If they aren't just for you, don't be stingy! Give your thoughts! 


2. Letter to a friend - I like the tone of friendship. So that's the way I write my blogs. I open up my notes section on my phone and make believe I'm sending a friend who asked a question a super long text.  I usually have a friend in mind. I might be thinking about a favorite cousin or a group of girls from my youth group. I keep people in my head when I'm writing and picture their response. Sometimes I'll even add my response to their response ... Like I might write "I know right?" Or "yes girl... I'm serious", after an un-believable point. 
My favorite way to be is personable. It gives me the confidence to be fully honest. Being personable means that if I'm saying something that someone doesn't agree with, at the very least, I said it as myself. It leaves out the guess work. It's like, I don't have to wonder if they were offended by my tone. They simply have a differing opinion. I'm ok with that.  (Am I rambling? Ok... Let's move on.)


3. Is it blog appropriate? - Once the letter is written I usually leave it alone. I don't even look at it again until it's posting time. I've got tons of letters just sitting in my notes section or laptop waiting for post days. I think it's important to let the idea breathe. When I come back to the letter later, I realize, oh that's no good or OMG that's PERFECT for what's going on right now! On post days I think about what I would like to say, and what the subject matter should be. I scroll thru my letters and pick a winner.

4. Doctoring it up - This is my favorite part. I enjoy this step in songwriting also. (Take my course on Artist Development if you wanna learn about that!) This is the part where I...


• Give the post a title

• Read thru the post to see what coincides with the title and what doesn't

• Add a warm ending or introduction based on who I believe my current audience is

• Add any promotions or special sales, links to other things I'd like to share or marketing I believe the reader may have interest in. (Like This 🙃)
This part can be a little painful because I do a lot of subtracting here. I think that's important. Don't wanna over-friend the audience. We're cool but, ain't no body got time for a novel.


5. Share it with a smart person who thinks you're an idiot - Well, that's not nice but someone who doesn't sugar coat. I'll be honest, this step bores me. I can be so big headed sometimes that I think my post is BRILLIANT. I'll share it with a pal and they'll be like, "ma'am... No.", so as a female artist in the music industry who hates the word "no", I'm pretty stubborn. I don't ALWAYS do this step, but I quite likely should. I like sharing with my mom. A cousin. Someone who "looks like the audience you wanna speak to".  I make sure to do it if I'm not positive if it's appropriate. I recently kept a post to myself because it was a little too personal so early on in our blogging relationship. This step can bruise your ego a little bit, but I'd rather one critic who loves me than a critic who doesn't know how sensitive I am.


A couple of quick thoughts? Keep your subject matter clear and concise. Answer your blog email questions. Hang out in the comment section at least 1x a week. You're building a relationship with real living people. You'll grow to love them as they grow to love you but like any relationship, it takes time, effort and consistency.

 

Well! That's how I write my blogs! I hope all you aspiring writers and blog writers were inspired to keep pushing! Tell me in the comments which of the five steps spoke to you the most!  


With love, from a learning blogger,
Chrisette Michele

 

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This Is Positive Thinking

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Positive thinking is simple actually. It's simply imagining the best instead of imagining the worst. 

Before I begin each day I take out 20 minutes to imagine it. I don't leave my bedroom or hotel room with out seeing my day in the best way before I experience it. I do believe that positive thinking influences what comes to me and what I experience, how I perceive the day and how it affects me. 

Try this exercise in positive thinking. It's one of my most treasured practices.

 1. Sit in a quiet place

2. Close your eyes

Breathe in and see where you are now in your mind. See the place where you sit. See your body.

 Relax

Head

Neck

Shoulders

Chest

Arms

Belly

Thighs

Calves

Feet

Smile

 What will you do this morning? Imagine the most positive outcome for your day's first task. Is it a healthy breakfast? What will you eat? Envision ur food... It's flavor...

 What's next?

 Go thru your day. Morning, work, children... Each part of the day from its beginning to end. Imagine how wonderfully you will do in every task you have set for the day.

Imagine all of the positive outcomes from the beginning of the day till its ending. How will you rest when your day is done. What pajamas will you wear?

 Breathe deep into your day. Send positive emotion towards it.

 Breathe positive thoughts to the people you will share it with. Breathe. In out. 

Once more.

Open your eyes.

Experience your day knowing that you have an intention. Breathe as life happens today. Expect positive outcomes. Think of them and breathe into them before they arrive.

This is positive thinking.

Today as you go thru your experience, remember back to the things you imagined for yourself. When you find yourself IMAGINING something that isn't positive, stop yourself. The truth is, the negativity you're imagining hasn't happened and it isn't true. So don't take the time to worry about it. Sometimes I imagine there will be unicorns in my dressing room. It's better than worrying about some negative thing I've conjured up in my mind.  

Be be as bright and full of light as you desire. There's nothing wrong with thinking highly of a day you haven't experienced. The same way you can fear a day, imagining the worst outcomes, you can welcome a day, imagining the best.   I hope this simple positivity exercise was helpful. 

Imagine the best with positive thinking and I guarantee you'll have better days ahead.

Namaste, 

Chrisette Michele

Let me know down below in the comments if you tried this and how it affected you. Tell me also if you would like to have this as an audio talk thru ❤️ 

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Monday Morning Mantra | I Will Go With the Flow Observant and Active

I will go with the flow, observant and active.


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It's a wonderful thing to have ambition, be goal oriented, push past your limits. An equal skill is stillness.

 

Often times we are told that we need to hustle. We are warned to "watch out for so and so" because they're on our tail. We run as fast as we can to un-thought out, un-formed, under-prepared paths just because we want to be the first. Meanwhile, there's someone miles behind us, gracefully absorbing the lessons and applying them to their progress.

 

Experience today. Look at it from many perspectives. Breathe "at" it. If there's a moment in the day that "doesn't suit you", breathe in its direction. Literally. Take a look at what you've decided doesn't "work for you". See it. Breathe towards it. Smile towards it.

 

Going with the flow doesn't mean being pushed aimlessly in every direction. It doesn't mean you are mindless or irresponsible. It means that you are putting your ego to rest by having gratitude for the things the Almighty has put in your path to bless you and test you.

 

I asked God to open doors for me to act. Suddenly I was given 4 roles in 4 plays, back to back. I was home for about 20 days in total for an entire year. The chef never cooked anything vegan. I had to create dishes that I could make in a hotel room. I spent nights in hotel rooms that were freezing as the winter came around. We'd sleep in our coats instead of bugging the hotel concierge in the middle of the night. Props fell out of the 50 foot theatre ceiling and close to my head. Actors were let go or added on left and right. Lines changed weekly as we would shift each play to suit the new audience. It was tumultuous. I couldn't see my family for their birthdays or holidays. I didn't get to celebrate new love the way I wanted to. And I missed my bed. It would be natural for me to say "I don't like this, let me run somewhere else. Somewhere better. Somewhere that suits me." But that would be a lot of nerve. I asked to act. Acting came to me. It's a blessing to my finances and my artistic ability. Going with the flow doesn't mean standing by and being taken advantage of. It means waiting out the noise and disruption around what you asked for.

 

After 13 months of acting non-stop, 2 huge opportunities have risen. I can't share them just yet, but one involves the beautiful cast members of Love Jones and another involves cameras. If I would have run away from the moments I needed to breathe into, I would have forfeited the "rest of what I prayed for".

 

Today be mindful as you stand still. Remember what you prayed for and be faithful till the end. You'll know when it's truly time to walk away. The door will open widely before you. Find the grace to go with the flow, observant, attentive, actively breathing toward every part of the journey that challenges you. Wear that slight smile. Focus a soft eye before you and see the light ahead.

 

With Love,

 

Chrisette Michele

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Monday Morning Mantra | "I Am Victorious"

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Not every experience I have is as wonderful backstage as it seems on the outside. Getting onto red carpet lines is a total drag. You have to drive your car around the block a few times until the lady who announces each celebrity is ready for you.  

There's a mob of people on the actual carpet pushing their way thru like a NYC street on Thanksgiving, trying to get their client the best interviews. 

Someone with your best interest keeps walking up to your face and dusting you with powder, pushing pins into your hair and tugging at your skirt so that by the time you arrive at the "event" you're frazzled from interview questions, "look this way" shouts and flashing lights. You smile. Because there's a camera somewhere all the time at every party and god-forbid you take a bad picture.

Before you can even check Instagram to see what website posted the best pic of you, Media Take-out has already done a story on the size of your new breasts. (Also known as a new bra, thanks.) ... But you push thru. 

 

Show time is everybody's favorite hour. The audience stands waiting for the music to begin. Everything you've spent years practicing is at the tip of your tongue and you wait for the curtains to open when someone walks over to you from production and says, "take out scene 4, 5 and 6. Don't lean on the tables today, they aren't secure and there's no 2nd verse in the 3rd song, the piano just broke". As much as you'd like to remember this all, you're nerves are frazzled from the last minute changes and you forget your lines in Act 1, scene 1. But you push thru and at the end of the night, the audience cheers during your bow and luckily, you made it. 

Autograph signings are a favorite. But there are moments there too that should be avoided. Then there are the road trips with the movies and the potato chip runs in-between cities. The massages for the aching muscles. Hair & makeup over the road breakouts. Nothing has one angle. Everything has facets. But we push thru.

In order to create humility in us, our circumstance can't be perfect. We have to learn stamina, "chin-up-ness" and "pick-it-up-ness". Life is NUTS! We get hit left and right with things we would never imagine. Heart breaking, back breaking, exhausting stuff. The testimony isn't how we made it thru a breeze of a life, it's how we made it thru the storms. They make us stronger, more resilient and tough. 

The thing about storms is, most people looking at me, don't know when I'm going thru one. It's not my responsibility to display the pain. It's my responsibility to deliver the child God has planted in my belly and gift the world with what was birthed thru me. The stage lighting isn't my responsibility. The lines are. I will never have all the perfect perks. But if I can just manage to remember most of the lines that I've been given and shine the light from within, I can make it to the other side. Victorious. 

Decide to be victorious today. Push thru. Remember your goal. Remember His promise. Remember your lines. The ones planted deep in your soul. Be diligent and don't get weary in well-doing. On the other side, you will reap, if you don't give up.

I love you and I hope you're encouraged today. What ever you're going thru is only a test for your testimony. Push thru my love.

 

Xoxoxo,

 

Chrisette Michele

 

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PS... I dedicate this post to the loves of my life who I just spent the last 4 months with, the Love Jones cast, crew and leasership. It hasn't been easy. We have literally cried, had feelings we may not be proud of, and laughed hysterically. I am stronger for it. I am better for it and I have new friendships from it. I love you each, thru thick and thin. We made it to the other side (and back 👀). You are brave, loyal and resilient. You are hard workers and humble. Cheers! Till next time. You each have my love.  

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Monday Morning Mantra | "I'll Go Where I'm Sent"



I'll go where I'm sent

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Today's Mantra is fairly simple. Well, in concept anyway.

 

Conviction is the most uncomfortable yet freeing feeling. It's the experience that happens when you hear the truth and it hits you like a ton of bricks. If you're brave enough to react to it, a load is lifted. If you ignore it, then you carry it with you everywhere you go and it's as heavy as a truck. I know. I've ignored convictions before.

 

Sometimes convictions are things that you feel like you shouldn't do, but everyone else does and you don't see the harm in it. Maybe it's cursing. Maybe it's lying. Perhaps it's not huge lies or you don't really care about the people you lie to. If you walk away from the experience and still carry the moment with you, you feel conviction.

 

Sometimes convictions are theologically sound ideas that you were taught years ago and over the years you've decided to be less strict about. Sex out of wedlock? Drugs and alcohol? Prayer and scripture study? Respecting your elders?

 

Can I be honest? With out my intention, this blog has become sort of a diary. I find myself sharing things I didn't plan. I know that I'm not alone in my life experiences and sharing them can lift someone else out of a dark place or emptiness that they felt no one else could relate to. Can I tell you a secret? The other day I was in the club. I was paid a crap load of cash to walk in with some friends and family, stand on the couches, dance and sing 3 songs. I had one drink. Cranberry juice with an apple flavored liquor. Fairly lightweight right?

 

When I woke up the next morning, I felt in my  heart, "I don't wanna drink alcohol anymore". I replayed the nights events. I wondered why I felt this conviction. I wasn't drunken. I didn't have a hang over. I didn't do something I was ashamed of (well, actually standing on couches with my best friend and 5 cousins is a little silly but... Nothing to be ashamed of... Persay). Why did my heart say, "no more drinking"?

 

Truth is? I'm not sure. Maybe God is calling me to be an example of something I don't yet understand. I've had many convictions over the years. Giving back, mentoring youth, singing in church, celibacy, praying often, having a message in my art, studying my word and so much more. Following those convictions and resisting the urge to dishonor them has catapulted me to many places in my life. I no longer feel the obligation to explain why I'm leaving things or people behind. People can call me "back slidden". They can say, "but she used to do this". I'm done worrying if people who appear "holier than thou" will accept me for being human. Releasing my convictions is private mostly. Those releases have catapulted me to my greatest moments. From Grammy's to amazing friendships, being found by the man who loves me when I felt convicted to sell all my things and pray more. You never know where  honoring your soul will take you. Honor the words you hear clearly in your God centered soul. Let's do that together. Me and you.

 

Today, I challenge you/us to follow that pretty heart of yours. The things you feel you shouldn't do, don't do. Going where you're sent requires leaving behind what you feel convicted to leave behind. Be encouraged. You aren't alone in your journey. I'm with you, Rich Hipster Nation is with you. All of us are always giving something up or fighting the urge to keep it. Today I make a commitment to let go of alcohol. Does that mean I was a bad person before? No. Does that mean God wasn't gonna let me in the gates 2 days ago? Mmmm... I can't really call it. But what I will say, is that releasing myself of convictions one day at a time, is the most freeing, heart warming, fulfilling way to live. Every thing I let go of, is replaced with light, love, forgiveness and freedom. Take me up on this offering.

 

I challenge you today to let go of what you feel called to let go of. Run after who you know you're called to be.

 

Now let's do this:

 

Say it with me, "I'll go where I'm sent and wave goodbye to what I'm convicted to let go of". You ready? We're in this together. Push past those human urges and follow that voice that leads you to your rightful place.

 

I love you with all of my heart and it means everything to walk this life journey with you, growing together one day at a time. Keep God first and the possibilities are endless!

 

So many hugs,

 

❤️💋❤️💋

 

Chrisette Michele

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Work-life Wednesdays | "How to balance Love/Work relationships"

Finding balance in the workplace ... When you work with your man, friend or family

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This is a tough one! I get this question all the time! While it seems so simple to me because I've been doing it for years, I totally understand how it can be a serious adjustment to work with the one you love.

 

I love working woth my man. He runs a successful clothing line where he functions as a designer and CEO. He runs a car service business with one of his business partners, he flips houses and he runs a music production and management company. His lady is managed by his company and writes for his production company. She runs her own record label, acts, and sings. Along with those collaborations we promote shows together, garnering radio promo, tv ads, organizing travel and rehearsals etc. Our plates are full but somehow we manage to be inseparable. I was able to apply the following tips to my mother and I when she was my manager also. I think these tips are universal for relationships that have a strong personal connection along with a business connection. I hope they help you. 

 

Here's my offering:

 

1. Value his expertise and leave that area alone

 

If he is a mathematical genius, who manages banking well, is timely with bills and great with accounting, don't insist on dabbling in the finances when he's comfortable doing so.

 

If you've got a degree in songwriting and he has one in production, leave your producer hat in the closet when he gets to the studio.

 

2. Create exploration alone time

 

Take time out of your week to get alone. Let that be the time for you to experiment and explore parts of you that you're shy to share in front of your teammate. Maybe you want to create a company logo on your phone but you aren't comfortable sharing your vision. Perhaps you want to learn Spanish to talk to new clients but your a little embarrassed learning in front of your partner. Perhaps you need yoga time to calm you down after meetings.

 

Take your personal exploration alone time and don't feel obligated to share it. Once you're comfortable in that space, you can present it to your teammate if you desire to, but not out of obligation.

 

Before shows, my team leaves my dressing room, I roll out my yoga mat and burn candles and do sun salutations to the backstage walls until I'm ready & grounded for showtime. I get frazzled meeting 100's of people every night. I'm moved by the many many peoples energy. I need to be grounded. I won't apologize for that. I ask for my space with love and with out being disrespectful and I'm usually completely understood. Besides, if they laugh, that's ok. As long as they give me the 15-30 minutes I need.

 

3. Ask before you take leaps

 

The courtesy and respect of asking your mate before you make big business decisions keeps both parties feeling safe, secure and able to trust. It's also important to hear other points of view before making big decisions.

 

Take the time out to present your question professionally. Want your cousin to design a website for the company. Invite your cousin over, introduce her to your man. Have her show him her latest website designs. Just because he's your man doesn't mean he can always "see" what's in your head. Don't let that frustrate you. Respect them just like you would any co-worker in corporate America and be professional.

 

4. Celebrate each other's individual successes

 

I know you're both tired or you both may work the same hours but you're exerting your energy in different ways. When your teammate gets a new lead don't down play it by talking about something you did that day. Celebrate them without thinking about how much you did that day.

 

Celebrating each other's individual successes increases morale and makes both individuals feel appreciated.

 

5. Don't stop being a spouse

 

You're still a wife. You're still a husband. A friend, mother whatever. Separate yourself from the business and be a mate. Make plans outside of work.

 

Sometimes I make a backstage picnic for me n babe. He's always building his businesses on his computer or taking calls backstage. Sometimes I'll order Italian, light a bunch of candles in my dressing room, have a bottle of wine and escape with some music for an hour. I won't talk about the show or doing my makeup. I'll just focus on the yummy food and pray that no one interrupts us. It's spouse time. Find time for spouse time. That's an order. A spouse, a friend or family member needs to know that they are loved and needed outside of what will make money. They need to know that you like their company and love them for who they are.

 

These are my five tips to having a successful work/love relationship. The two key factors are Value and Trust. Make your partner feel valued with celebration and respect and build trust by being upfront and professional.

 

I love you so much and I wish you well in your love & business endeavors. Tell me your favorite tip and how you'll apply it in the comments section below. You know I comment back. ❤️

 

Xoxo,

 

Chrisette Michele

 

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Monday Meditation Practice

Monday Meditation Practice

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Good Morning Beautiful!

I felt called to write a post on meditation today. I had an awful day by many people's standards. I had a show with Love Jones the Musical. Then a meet & greet for about 30 minutes. I got back to my dressing room at about 11:30 pm. That was fun, right? Then we hopped in the sprinter for an 8 hour drive to the next city. I don't sleep well in sprinters so I dozed off here and there. I arrived at my hotel for a much needed nap at about 6:30 am. We got in the room and it was freezing. I threw my coat on and added a sweatshirt over my top. I went to sleep, too tired to ask them to fix the heat. (Actually they were called, they did come up, they couldn't fix it... Some mechanical thing.)

Anyways. I slept for 2-3 hrs waking up shivering here and there and the great Love Jones crew arranged a trip to the Nike store. I wasn't missing that, so I stood up, rinsed my face off, refusing to shower in 40 degrees and headed out to the sprinters for a little shopping spree.

Got back to the Telly at 12:30, grouchy, hungry and sleepy.

We switched our room to something with heat. I had to repack my bags and un pack the fridge (where I keep all my coconut water, veggies and fruit). We moved rooms. I showered, put on my new sweats, grabbed the almond milk from the new fridge and took a trip to the hotel's sunny lobby.

There were big chairs and an espresso machine. I decided to have a coffee with my almond milk and take advantage of what looked to me like a meditation playground. Soft jazz playing in the Memphis lobby. I needed a minute.

Got my coffee made, added cinnamon and headed to the biggest chair by the sunniest window, praying that I could have 10 minutes of quiet, heated solitude.

I crossed my legs in the big fluffy chair with the sturdy back, laid my hands, palm side up on my knees, closed my eyes and began to breath.

When I was finished, the ends of my lips were turned up. The room was calmer, and my nerves were soothed. My coffee was waiting. I took the first sip and it spilled just a little down my had. The lid wasn't sturdy. I got up to get another. When I returned a little old lady was picking my cup up to clean the table. I waved and said "that's mine, thank you". She didn't hear me. I walked closer and repeated myself. She kept cleaning and moving my cup around the table. I kindly reached over and lifted my coffee and simply sat at the next fluffy chair. She walked over. She asked me what I was doing earlier. She asked if it was meditation and explained that she needed to do "that". Here's what I told her, "Take ten deep breaths". I knew that she watched me and understood the rest. Can I share with you what I was doing? Would you like a quick class in meditation? Here's what I was doing in that chair.

1. Sit in a comfy position. Legs crossed. Palms up on the knee caps. Back straight. I like to be against a wall or back of a fluffy couch for support. Ex. Your living room couch.

2. Take a deep breath in and count to 4

3. Exhale and count to 6

4. On my inhale I said to my self "I Am"

5. On my exhale I finish the sentence with what I am literally doing. "Seated", "sitting in a chair at the Westin hotel", "performing in Chicago", "playing Nina in Love Jones tonight". Ex. "I am sitting in a chair at the Westin hotel."

6. When I am at the top of each breath I give myself a second to be where "I Am". I visualize it. I feel it. I become it. If I'm having a hard time becoming it, then I repeat it again on the next breath. Sometimes, I will repeat something 10 times before I can feel it. Sometimes just once is fine. I don't judge myself. I just experience the moment, freely.

7. When I run out of sentences then I simply finish "I Am" with "Grateful".

8. I try counting on my fingers sometimes. Each inhale and exhale pairing is one finger. Going thru both of my hands 2 times is usually a nice way to begin my day. See what works for you. Some people set a 10 minute timer on their phone. I like to be as far away from anything that feels like technology in this moment. I don't like to be too strict during meditation. 

9. Switch back and forth between things that "you are" and the word "grateful". Ex. "I am breathing deeply. I am grateful. I am sitting still. I am grateful. I am awake. I am grateful." 

10. When you're done. Open your eyes and take a look around you. Realize where you are literally seated. See who is around you. Be grateful for what you see and practice gratitude towards it. Be grateful throughout your day.

 

It is my finding that with each repetition of "grateful", you won't just become more grounded in your experience but you will become more grateful for it. That's what tends to happen to me.

I'm now sitting still sipping my coffee, writing you this post because, she was brave enough to ask, I decided maybe she isn't the only person who wants to know.

In 10 minutes I'll head to the theatre and perform the lead role in tonight's showing of "Love Jones The Musical". I'll go out for a meet & greet and then perform in the night show. I'll get to the hotel at 11, get up at 4, hop on a plane to Detroit and perform again for the Milestone tour. I'm so grateful for being the vessel I'm called to be. I'm also very grateful for meditation. It calms and it soothes. Use it when you feel up, down or in-between to balance and calm you.

 

I love you deeply,

 

Chrisette Michele

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