Monday Morning Mantra | "I'll Go Where I'm Sent"



I'll go where I'm sent

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Today's Mantra is fairly simple. Well, in concept anyway.

 

Conviction is the most uncomfortable yet freeing feeling. It's the experience that happens when you hear the truth and it hits you like a ton of bricks. If you're brave enough to react to it, a load is lifted. If you ignore it, then you carry it with you everywhere you go and it's as heavy as a truck. I know. I've ignored convictions before.

 

Sometimes convictions are things that you feel like you shouldn't do, but everyone else does and you don't see the harm in it. Maybe it's cursing. Maybe it's lying. Perhaps it's not huge lies or you don't really care about the people you lie to. If you walk away from the experience and still carry the moment with you, you feel conviction.

 

Sometimes convictions are theologically sound ideas that you were taught years ago and over the years you've decided to be less strict about. Sex out of wedlock? Drugs and alcohol? Prayer and scripture study? Respecting your elders?

 

Can I be honest? With out my intention, this blog has become sort of a diary. I find myself sharing things I didn't plan. I know that I'm not alone in my life experiences and sharing them can lift someone else out of a dark place or emptiness that they felt no one else could relate to. Can I tell you a secret? The other day I was in the club. I was paid a crap load of cash to walk in with some friends and family, stand on the couches, dance and sing 3 songs. I had one drink. Cranberry juice with an apple flavored liquor. Fairly lightweight right?

 

When I woke up the next morning, I felt in my  heart, "I don't wanna drink alcohol anymore". I replayed the nights events. I wondered why I felt this conviction. I wasn't drunken. I didn't have a hang over. I didn't do something I was ashamed of (well, actually standing on couches with my best friend and 5 cousins is a little silly but... Nothing to be ashamed of... Persay). Why did my heart say, "no more drinking"?

 

Truth is? I'm not sure. Maybe God is calling me to be an example of something I don't yet understand. I've had many convictions over the years. Giving back, mentoring youth, singing in church, celibacy, praying often, having a message in my art, studying my word and so much more. Following those convictions and resisting the urge to dishonor them has catapulted me to many places in my life. I no longer feel the obligation to explain why I'm leaving things or people behind. People can call me "back slidden". They can say, "but she used to do this". I'm done worrying if people who appear "holier than thou" will accept me for being human. Releasing my convictions is private mostly. Those releases have catapulted me to my greatest moments. From Grammy's to amazing friendships, being found by the man who loves me when I felt convicted to sell all my things and pray more. You never know where  honoring your soul will take you. Honor the words you hear clearly in your God centered soul. Let's do that together. Me and you.

 

Today, I challenge you/us to follow that pretty heart of yours. The things you feel you shouldn't do, don't do. Going where you're sent requires leaving behind what you feel convicted to leave behind. Be encouraged. You aren't alone in your journey. I'm with you, Rich Hipster Nation is with you. All of us are always giving something up or fighting the urge to keep it. Today I make a commitment to let go of alcohol. Does that mean I was a bad person before? No. Does that mean God wasn't gonna let me in the gates 2 days ago? Mmmm... I can't really call it. But what I will say, is that releasing myself of convictions one day at a time, is the most freeing, heart warming, fulfilling way to live. Every thing I let go of, is replaced with light, love, forgiveness and freedom. Take me up on this offering.

 

I challenge you today to let go of what you feel called to let go of. Run after who you know you're called to be.

 

Now let's do this:

 

Say it with me, "I'll go where I'm sent and wave goodbye to what I'm convicted to let go of". You ready? We're in this together. Push past those human urges and follow that voice that leads you to your rightful place.

 

I love you with all of my heart and it means everything to walk this life journey with you, growing together one day at a time. Keep God first and the possibilities are endless!

 

So many hugs,

 

❤️💋❤️💋

 

Chrisette Michele

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Work-life Wednesdays | "How to balance Love/Work relationships"

Finding balance in the workplace ... When you work with your man, friend or family

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This is a tough one! I get this question all the time! While it seems so simple to me because I've been doing it for years, I totally understand how it can be a serious adjustment to work with the one you love.

 

I love working woth my man. He runs a successful clothing line where he functions as a designer and CEO. He runs a car service business with one of his business partners, he flips houses and he runs a music production and management company. His lady is managed by his company and writes for his production company. She runs her own record label, acts, and sings. Along with those collaborations we promote shows together, garnering radio promo, tv ads, organizing travel and rehearsals etc. Our plates are full but somehow we manage to be inseparable. I was able to apply the following tips to my mother and I when she was my manager also. I think these tips are universal for relationships that have a strong personal connection along with a business connection. I hope they help you. 

 

Here's my offering:

 

1. Value his expertise and leave that area alone

 

If he is a mathematical genius, who manages banking well, is timely with bills and great with accounting, don't insist on dabbling in the finances when he's comfortable doing so.

 

If you've got a degree in songwriting and he has one in production, leave your producer hat in the closet when he gets to the studio.

 

2. Create exploration alone time

 

Take time out of your week to get alone. Let that be the time for you to experiment and explore parts of you that you're shy to share in front of your teammate. Maybe you want to create a company logo on your phone but you aren't comfortable sharing your vision. Perhaps you want to learn Spanish to talk to new clients but your a little embarrassed learning in front of your partner. Perhaps you need yoga time to calm you down after meetings.

 

Take your personal exploration alone time and don't feel obligated to share it. Once you're comfortable in that space, you can present it to your teammate if you desire to, but not out of obligation.

 

Before shows, my team leaves my dressing room, I roll out my yoga mat and burn candles and do sun salutations to the backstage walls until I'm ready & grounded for showtime. I get frazzled meeting 100's of people every night. I'm moved by the many many peoples energy. I need to be grounded. I won't apologize for that. I ask for my space with love and with out being disrespectful and I'm usually completely understood. Besides, if they laugh, that's ok. As long as they give me the 15-30 minutes I need.

 

3. Ask before you take leaps

 

The courtesy and respect of asking your mate before you make big business decisions keeps both parties feeling safe, secure and able to trust. It's also important to hear other points of view before making big decisions.

 

Take the time out to present your question professionally. Want your cousin to design a website for the company. Invite your cousin over, introduce her to your man. Have her show him her latest website designs. Just because he's your man doesn't mean he can always "see" what's in your head. Don't let that frustrate you. Respect them just like you would any co-worker in corporate America and be professional.

 

4. Celebrate each other's individual successes

 

I know you're both tired or you both may work the same hours but you're exerting your energy in different ways. When your teammate gets a new lead don't down play it by talking about something you did that day. Celebrate them without thinking about how much you did that day.

 

Celebrating each other's individual successes increases morale and makes both individuals feel appreciated.

 

5. Don't stop being a spouse

 

You're still a wife. You're still a husband. A friend, mother whatever. Separate yourself from the business and be a mate. Make plans outside of work.

 

Sometimes I make a backstage picnic for me n babe. He's always building his businesses on his computer or taking calls backstage. Sometimes I'll order Italian, light a bunch of candles in my dressing room, have a bottle of wine and escape with some music for an hour. I won't talk about the show or doing my makeup. I'll just focus on the yummy food and pray that no one interrupts us. It's spouse time. Find time for spouse time. That's an order. A spouse, a friend or family member needs to know that they are loved and needed outside of what will make money. They need to know that you like their company and love them for who they are.

 

These are my five tips to having a successful work/love relationship. The two key factors are Value and Trust. Make your partner feel valued with celebration and respect and build trust by being upfront and professional.

 

I love you so much and I wish you well in your love & business endeavors. Tell me your favorite tip and how you'll apply it in the comments section below. You know I comment back. ❤️

 

Xoxo,

 

Chrisette Michele

 

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Monday Meditation Practice

Monday Meditation Practice

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Good Morning Beautiful!

I felt called to write a post on meditation today. I had an awful day by many people's standards. I had a show with Love Jones the Musical. Then a meet & greet for about 30 minutes. I got back to my dressing room at about 11:30 pm. That was fun, right? Then we hopped in the sprinter for an 8 hour drive to the next city. I don't sleep well in sprinters so I dozed off here and there. I arrived at my hotel for a much needed nap at about 6:30 am. We got in the room and it was freezing. I threw my coat on and added a sweatshirt over my top. I went to sleep, too tired to ask them to fix the heat. (Actually they were called, they did come up, they couldn't fix it... Some mechanical thing.)

Anyways. I slept for 2-3 hrs waking up shivering here and there and the great Love Jones crew arranged a trip to the Nike store. I wasn't missing that, so I stood up, rinsed my face off, refusing to shower in 40 degrees and headed out to the sprinters for a little shopping spree.

Got back to the Telly at 12:30, grouchy, hungry and sleepy.

We switched our room to something with heat. I had to repack my bags and un pack the fridge (where I keep all my coconut water, veggies and fruit). We moved rooms. I showered, put on my new sweats, grabbed the almond milk from the new fridge and took a trip to the hotel's sunny lobby.

There were big chairs and an espresso machine. I decided to have a coffee with my almond milk and take advantage of what looked to me like a meditation playground. Soft jazz playing in the Memphis lobby. I needed a minute.

Got my coffee made, added cinnamon and headed to the biggest chair by the sunniest window, praying that I could have 10 minutes of quiet, heated solitude.

I crossed my legs in the big fluffy chair with the sturdy back, laid my hands, palm side up on my knees, closed my eyes and began to breath.

When I was finished, the ends of my lips were turned up. The room was calmer, and my nerves were soothed. My coffee was waiting. I took the first sip and it spilled just a little down my had. The lid wasn't sturdy. I got up to get another. When I returned a little old lady was picking my cup up to clean the table. I waved and said "that's mine, thank you". She didn't hear me. I walked closer and repeated myself. She kept cleaning and moving my cup around the table. I kindly reached over and lifted my coffee and simply sat at the next fluffy chair. She walked over. She asked me what I was doing earlier. She asked if it was meditation and explained that she needed to do "that". Here's what I told her, "Take ten deep breaths". I knew that she watched me and understood the rest. Can I share with you what I was doing? Would you like a quick class in meditation? Here's what I was doing in that chair.

1. Sit in a comfy position. Legs crossed. Palms up on the knee caps. Back straight. I like to be against a wall or back of a fluffy couch for support. Ex. Your living room couch.

2. Take a deep breath in and count to 4

3. Exhale and count to 6

4. On my inhale I said to my self "I Am"

5. On my exhale I finish the sentence with what I am literally doing. "Seated", "sitting in a chair at the Westin hotel", "performing in Chicago", "playing Nina in Love Jones tonight". Ex. "I am sitting in a chair at the Westin hotel."

6. When I am at the top of each breath I give myself a second to be where "I Am". I visualize it. I feel it. I become it. If I'm having a hard time becoming it, then I repeat it again on the next breath. Sometimes, I will repeat something 10 times before I can feel it. Sometimes just once is fine. I don't judge myself. I just experience the moment, freely.

7. When I run out of sentences then I simply finish "I Am" with "Grateful".

8. I try counting on my fingers sometimes. Each inhale and exhale pairing is one finger. Going thru both of my hands 2 times is usually a nice way to begin my day. See what works for you. Some people set a 10 minute timer on their phone. I like to be as far away from anything that feels like technology in this moment. I don't like to be too strict during meditation. 

9. Switch back and forth between things that "you are" and the word "grateful". Ex. "I am breathing deeply. I am grateful. I am sitting still. I am grateful. I am awake. I am grateful." 

10. When you're done. Open your eyes and take a look around you. Realize where you are literally seated. See who is around you. Be grateful for what you see and practice gratitude towards it. Be grateful throughout your day.

 

It is my finding that with each repetition of "grateful", you won't just become more grounded in your experience but you will become more grateful for it. That's what tends to happen to me.

I'm now sitting still sipping my coffee, writing you this post because, she was brave enough to ask, I decided maybe she isn't the only person who wants to know.

In 10 minutes I'll head to the theatre and perform the lead role in tonight's showing of "Love Jones The Musical". I'll go out for a meet & greet and then perform in the night show. I'll get to the hotel at 11, get up at 4, hop on a plane to Detroit and perform again for the Milestone tour. I'm so grateful for being the vessel I'm called to be. I'm also very grateful for meditation. It calms and it soothes. Use it when you feel up, down or in-between to balance and calm you.

 

I love you deeply,

 

Chrisette Michele

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Work Life Wednesday's | Win Like This

Win Like This! "3 winner tips for any life hurdle" 

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 I'll be honest, I planned to post this the day after Hillary won. I was gonna post my new bathing suit pics from vacation and a tag line like "I'm with her!" Or "girl power". I'll tell the truth. I got a little discouraged and I spent the day in Barbados so stunned that I couldn't hold my breath long enough to dive with my babe and see the fish. I even checked to see if the sun rose the next morning... 👀 Anyways, I love my country and I love what it stands for and I'm a believer that God is great no matter the climate. I will be praying for our new president, and with more fervor than ever, I will encourage my sisters and girlfriends. We are strong. We are powerful. We are winners. So, here we go with my postponed post. "Win Like This!". May God continue to bless and keep us all. 

I have a lot to cover and a little time. Let's jump right in! 

1. It starts in your mind

 I was petrified to play Nina in a musical called Love Jones. What if Nia Long showed up in the Los Angeles audience. I'm petrified everytime I release a new single. Somebody's gonna hate it IMMENSELY. And God forbid, I fall in love and Instagram about it... Creating the energy I want around my decisions and the races I choose to run is paramount! I've gotta have a winners mind. Fear is human, overcoming it with the right mind set is the first step in winning. Here's an exercise to get your mind thinking in the right direction.

This one is the beginning because it takes the most work. There are steps to having a mental grasp on victory. I'm going to present an offering to you today, that I'll re-introduce in upcoming WLW's. I ask that you be open minded here and at the very least, give it a try. Ready?

 Get in your mind the hurdle that you're facing. Release the stress around that experience. See the stress, don't judge it, just allow it to be its own entity. Don't own it. Don't control it, just release it. It doesn't have to be yours.

Now let's do an exercise to get your mind in a victorious state. C'mon. It's easy.

 Take a deep breath. In and out. Again. And once more.

Open up your hand and place it gently on your belly. Feel your knowing power. Feel the part of you that has a good feeling about your future. Get comfortable with your own touch. Breathe. In and out, hand on your belly.

Close your beautiful eyes and say these words, "I know who I am". Say it again, "I know who I am." See who you are, in the most loving, non-judgmental way. See who you are. See your vision of the greatest hurdle hopping victor. See your vision of you as a winner. Imagine the feeling. Imagine the thought in your mind as you hold the baton. Are you ten pounds lighter? Are you finishing up your degree? Did you get that job? Finally perfected your twist out? See your victory. Relax into it. Experience it. Hand on your belly. Breathing deeply. 

This is the feeling of a victorious mindset. I do this all the time.

2. Attach yourself to cheerleaders

Okay. This one isn't easy. Everyone doesn't have your winners mindset. Everyone doesn't understand your winner vision. How do you get cheerleaders and why?

Well let's start here. It's not egotistical to need cheering or encouragement. Everyone needs it. You've gotta be inspired to continue. Whether it's your favorite Instagram feed to inspire your weight loss journey or collecting home decor magazines to think your way thru finishing your house remodeling, you need motivation.

Runners have coaches. Singers have managers who wake them up every morning after 22 hour days. Even The President has advisors! (Too soon? I'm sorry.) The point is, being lonely on your journey is cool for an Instagram post quote but, you need cheerleaders.

How, you ask? Well it's actually easy!!! We live in the tech era!

 •Find online, and bookmark your favorite gurus in the area of your race! Check in with their posts daily. For me, my new blogging journey is encouraged by Claire Marshall & Shameless Maya to name a few! Find your inspo!

•Join groups online with similar interests. Go to FaceBook and search for folks who love what you love and wanna win too! That's one of the easiest ways to network and make new friends in your area of interest.

•Find a coach or a class online. There are so many amazing coaches who can thrust you into your destiny for a small fee. People like Stacia Pierce, or Courtney Sanders or even the new school I'm starting "Rich Hipster University". Maybe there's a mentorship program at your church. Coaches and mentors are one of the best ways to keep your head and your emotions in the game. 

 Outside of the digital space there are community groups, networking events and cool apps like "meet up" where you can find cool things to do in your interest area just by downloading the app. (I've got it on my phone too!)

 3. Play again!!!

This is the biggest and most important tip! So what you tried it before! So what you've already put yourself out there?

Made some mistakes? Obviously!!! Let's visit that. Mistakes. Write them down. Write them and figure out ways to do better. Less carbs? Eco gel, not a good idea for your twist out? Should have known more about the company you interviewed for? What got in the way of your victory last time? It's ok to change your approach. Don't be proud. Don't let your ego interfere. Change. Get better. Increase in discipline. Face your mistakes. Research better options. Try again. Try again. 

Wait a minute. Are you already tired thinking about all of this? Calm down. Think about your goal again. See yourself victorious. Why on Earth is victory such a bad idea? Did someone say you couldn't? Did you get hurt the 1st time? Does someone you love keep challenging you? Think about this. Face this. Be honest.

What's wrong with you being a winner? Think about it... And release it. Release the ideas that don't support your dream. Release those discouraging speeches and worries from others. Not angrily. Not with judgement. Just with deep loving breath. In and out. Those defeating ideas don't belong to you.

It's a great advantage to try again. You've been through it and you know what to expect. That's a good thing. My advice in winning is to try again. Yup!

How many singles I've released that didn't make it to radio. Yet I've had a number one on the billboard charts, top ten R&B songs and more! I had to take a look at my losing patterns. I had to see what notes people like. What tempo wins at radio. What subjects people wanted to hear. For a time I decided not to worry about radio. The race was tiring and it felt unfair. I've felt defeated. I've felt insecure. I've felt too small. But when I came to my senses I had to remember that winners mind, attach myself to cheerleaders, erase and re-vamp from my mistakes experience and try again. No one can tell me I don't belong. No one can make me uncomfortable about my past. It's MINE to learn from! Your journey is yours to learn and grow from. You were strong enough to make it thru the 1st time. (2nd, 3rd, whatever). Let's re-write the race strategy and run again. 

These three tips aren't easy. I'm fully aware of that, but if you've gotten this far in reading this, you've got some tenacity and you're looking for victory. Be encouraged today. Know that you can do anything you put your mind to, your surroundings to, your plans to. I'm touching and agreeing with you right now! Step up to the plate and hit that ball into the crowd! 

Got it? Ok. Let's do this!

Talk to me in the comment section. Which of these tips speak to you the most? What are you excited to try and what's your goal?

 This is a judgment free zone. No fear posting  here. It's all love. You know me... I write back ❤️

Be free today. I can't wait to hear about your next big win! Love you endlessly!

 

Xoxo,

 

CM

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Monday Morning Mantra | "I Have The Spirit Of Forgiveness"

 

 

I have the spirit of forgiveness 

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Since when is friendship a bad thing? I hear everyday "I don't need no friends" or ... "I don't get along with females".

Ok girl. Thanksgiving is coming up and god-forbid you have to spend it with out the ones you love. Friendship is a valued treasure and giving someone the title friend only increases your capacity to love.

Here's the trick with friendship. You ready? Don't expect so much. Yes people should be kind, they should be gracious, they shouldn't try to steal your boyfriend. I know. That's common sense stuff. But asking you for a $5 and forgetting to give it back or putting a ketchup stain on your favorite T shirt that she borrowed? Girl? Let that thang go!

We expect people to be God or perfect and when they aren't, we do away with them like the plague.

Harbor forgiveness. Hold it in your left hand and give it away freely. It frees you from the transgression and it gives someone a safe place to be loved. Yes my love. You are someone's safe place. You are where someone can go to be hidden when there truth is free and as they become comfortable growing, they'll make mistakes. You get the task of forgiving them. They'll learn to walk on their own but if they can't figure life out with a friend, they'll be alone, falling with no hand to hold. You're friends are growing humans.

Now, of course we all have "non-negotiables".  If she treats your son funny. Bye. If she sets your house on fire. Bye. Make a list and stick to that. I understand but giiiiiiirl, let me tell you about a couple of my besties... And I have given myself the privilege of having more than one. 

Ashleigh... You guys know her. We were on TV together and she sang back-up for me for years before she got an incredible record deal and released her own album "Sunkissed". We have CRIED in fights back stage and hugged and kissed and made up and gotten manicures later. And how about Shenelle, you know the girl who has been doing my makeup since I started touring, married my cousin (road manager) and had two babies? Her. We've cursed each other out and I even missed being a bridesmaid in her wedding after flying to Mexico and turning down two shows to be there! We didn't speak for a year! To this day, there is NOTHING I wouldn't do for her. She is loved and I am too. We're both beautiful nut-cases and so is everyone else. We make mistakes, but with the power of love and forgiveness we are able to settle our pasts and enjoy our future.

My life is fuller because of it. I get to hug her babies when I see her. Ashleigh and I text each other love letters all the time and a myriad of other girls I adore are apart of how I'm able to let my hair down. Melissa, Ava "Mitch", Dee Dee, my cousin Chrisette, Rasheema and even the new ladies I'm getting to know on tour right now and guess what, they ALL make mistakes!

Take the chance to open up your heart.  Allow the good times. The hugs, the kisses, the comfort, the talks and when things get rough, breathe, patch them up and try again. Have your "non-negotiables" and know your weakness but love a human. Un-conditionally, just how you'd like to be loved.

Don't be lonely. Your company is good but try learning a new perspective. Let that gaurd down and say, "I forgive you". It's an available option. It isn't always easy, but it's available if you're willing to love beyond your minds capacity. 

Did I touch a soft spot? Lets talk about it in the comment section, I bet we've all got a few things in common.

Now say it with me hunny, "I have the spirit of forgiveness". Touch that pretty heart of yours with your right hand and remind yourself of the beauty that lives inside of you. Go ahead. Warm your palms and touch your heart. Say it, "I have the spirit of forgiveness". Pray about it. It's there. And if it isn't, ask for it.

 

I love you guys!

 ❤️💋❤️💋

Chrisette Michele

 

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"6 Days to Centered"

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It's interesting.

 

My spirit is always ready, 25 steps in front of me waving "COME ON CHRISSY!!! YOU CAN DO IT!" Like a personal trainer in a really intimidating gym.

 

My body out of breath looks ahead at my spirit and tries to shout, "I'm coming" but with too many Cheetos, cheeseburgers and other in-digestible earthly indulgences, I'm sluggish, tired and beaten by the norms of the day.

 

And then there is my beautiful mind filling in the gap between where I've come from and where I'm going. Logicizing which direction is best.  I stand, in the middle of it all, with nothing more than the desire to make others happy, forgetting that I exist.

 

This is the constant experience that I have on an off day. I'm learning gradually how to be more available fully to the callings of my spirit, my personal trainer. She knows more than I'll ever fully understand and her intention has God in it. I'm blessed to know her well.

 

My sacrifice as a human being is to feed those three individuals. Mind, body, soul.  I find that I often neglect one or two of them at a time and then collapse when I'm completely out of air.

 

Today I'm remembering to experience self love for all of my makeup. All of my being.

 

I'm constantly experimenting with new natural ideas. Like scheduling, or adding or letting go of... Things like massage for the body, an audio book listen for the mind or meditation writing for the spirit. These are smart enhancements to life... But then there is that space. That space all around the gym of life between my trainer and I. Someone is on the treadmill and my ego is suddenly a track star. May I use the treadmill? I look around and see a pretty girl in a super cute pink track suit and suddenly my gym clothes, my garments aren't good enough. May I hit the mall for a new appearance? Validation needs get in the way. And I'm chasing someone else's goal. I'm chasing someone else's ideal. I'm training for the wrong race. By the time my spirit gets my attention, I'm exhausted, wishing for an applause that I'll never receive.

 

The truth is, with out a grasp on yourself. Your mind, your body, your spirit. You are never paying your SELF enough attention to get to where your spirit leads. If you could settle in to the body, mind and soul you've been given, you have a guide. You have the equipment, you have the package to go where your truth lies, but your beautiful eyes are too wide open.

 

May I lovingly present this experiment. You'll need a full Monday-Sunday... A few days ahead to plan it all (try starting today), a planner and an alarm set on your phone or clock as a reminder.

 

Experiment:

 

"6 Days to a Centered Sunday"

 

Start off by answering the following questions. Write the answers down on a clean sheet of paper.

 

Where does your body show up? When can you feel your body speak to you the most? For me I am most connected to my body during massage and yoga. It is when I can hear it speak. I know if it feels good, if there is an ache, if it needs rest. Where does your body show up for you?

 

Where does your mind show up? When can you feel strategy come in? When do you suddenly feel a plan that lines up with your purpose? That motivation space. For me it's when I read books like Girl Boss or Fabulosity. Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Books like these make me slam them shut, break out the planner and journal and get to goal setting and planning. Having a life coach, mentor or manager helps me to streamline these plans when they become overwhelming for just one person. Where does your motivation to PUSH show up?

 

And what about your spirit? Where do you go to see your next steps? How do you see the future? Do your sudden amazing ideas come late at night before bed? Do they come when you meditate or how about just when you relax and burn candles? This tends to be the most challenging  space for most people to find. That's ok. With much experimenting, and searching, you will find the best ways to find that part of yourself. For me, stillness, low light, scented candles and a creative activity is a great set up. Perhaps a fun make-up application in the quiet with candles lit. For me makeup time is quiet time. It's spiritual, not because I'm "getting pretty" but because I'm doing a mind-less activity. My spirit shows up when I "turn my mind of and my body off". Stillness, and no room to think as I focus on a visual. Maybe meditation with candle fire before you as your "visual focus".

 

Prayer seems like the obvious choice here. Be careful in searching for your spirit to guide you when praying. If you seek guidance, then don't decide where you're going. Listen. God speaks, but you have to listen.

 

Find 2 activities for each part of you.

 

Now let's work on a week of balance. Plan out your Monday - Sunday. Search for an hour or so in each day. Do a mind activity one day, a body another and a spirit another. Repeat. You'll end up with six days of blanching your being. Chase these activities as much as you chase pleasing other people and you'll be surprised with the fervor in which you will find the time.

 

On Sunday, rest. Give your full self the opportunity to rest. I bet you, you will feel more level and for some reason, more available to your goals and dreams. You become more available to your calling when you create the balance that your self needs to function fully. This is why the bible asks for our bodies to be presented as a living sacrifice. Our full self is needed to do the work in which we are called to do. Be refreshed. Be centered.

 

I present these ideas to you in love and without judgement, praying that the future you seek become right before you, with balance, pleasure and peace.  You're not alone. 

 

Xo,

 

CM

 

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Work Life Wednesday's | "Authenticity Sells"

Authenticity Sells

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Instagram: @chrisettemichele

 

I'll be honest. I don't always know why people are moved. I'm not always aware of the effect that I may have on someone. I most often do something for the sake of art and honesty then turn around later to find that I've created a small monster. My place as a cover girl on Ebony magazine. My 2011 head shaving & photo shoot. Getting engaged 👀. Literally not thinking about the worlds response but the truth is, for some reason, embracing what I see as true tends to resonate and validate someone else's journey. That doesn't make me any less afraid to step out first.

 

Authenticity sells. We talk about the value of sex and it's selling power. Often beauty and fashion are berated by the self righteous who look at commercial success as selling out. The truth is, people purchase what resonates with them.

 

There are many audiences. 100's of them. The skill in being successful is knowing who you speak to in your purest form and making yourself available to that group of people.

 

The hard part in being a creative entrepreneur is most of us judge ourselves harder than people are actually judging us. We wait until we see someone else doing something we want to do before we're brave enough to put ourselves out there. In wanting to belong, we forget where our actual value lies. It's not in the words of people. It works the other way around. If you've been given the gift of sharing, you are the beginning of the communication. It starts with you.

 

The truth is, fear of authenticity usually has to do with a need for healing. The parts of your beauty you're unwilling to bare are often the victim of a life crime. Take a look at what is beautiful to you in private. What hurts there? What happened? See it? Taking the time to explore your insecurities and mend them, is a pre-cursor to sharing what is authentically you. Ouch. Want my therapists number? Talk to me in the comments section.

 

Trial and error win the race. Giving and then receiving feed back is your best friend. Give what is TRULY you and believe that there is a group of people who need you. In her book, "Fabulosity", Kimora Lee Simmons said that she felt unwanted in one place and so she moved to another and was welcomed.

 

It's not about not being yourself, it's about knowing there are many audiences and with great patience, sacrifice, honesty and thick skin, you will grow and cultivate your very own demographic. You may grow such a large audience that they become a distinct resemblance of your offering. That's when you can create a name for the group of people who you love and love you.

 

I call my niche, my group, my tribe Rich Hipster Nation. It took ten years of trial and error, exposing and rescinding. I finally feel like I have some understanding, some what of a safer place for me to express myself but I am still always expanding, trying new things and pulling my fingers away from the fire when I'm petrified. I'm human. You're human.

 

Listen. Life is like a third grade cafeteria. You walk in on the first day and never know where to sit. You try out new tables and you fake or you tell the truth. I was so awkward (independent is a better word) that my most comfortable seat during lunch was in the band room with the show choir nerds and band junkies. Look at me now.

 

Tell your truth. Be authentic. It may take a minute. Sex is popular because we all have it! (Hopefully with a secure mate who's promise is to love us forever.) But, I promise you, if you spend enough time grooming you, loving you, cutting away the excess and shaping you, it will sell just where it's supposed to, in due season.

 

Be well, be lifted.

 

With Love,

 

Chrisette Michele

 

PS. Fear is a jerk that gets in the way of great destiny. Punch it in the face and be authentic!

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Monday Morning Mantra | "I'm Ok With My Cross"

I'm ok with my cross

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Sometimes I am so focused on my dreams and my visions that I see myself there before I actually am. I am comparing my actual experience with the one that is in my dream. I'll complain about my current situation, because it isn't as good as what I strive for. The packaging on my album isn't leather bound. My Instagram feed isn't as sassy as my favorite blogger. My charity work isn't as big as other artists. I see greatness but I'm not as great as I want to be. So I complain.

God had to check me. Parts of that is haughty. I'm judging my circumstance instead of being grateful for the opportunity to grow. While it's honorable to strive for great success it's so important to understand growth, humility and most of all sacrifice. What hurts you deeply but calls you even deeper is your sacrifice. Your cross.

Pastor Jakes spoke a beautiful word on Sunday, and while I don't desire to wax "preacher-esque", I realize that sharing my heart with you is of my most treasured connections.

He spoke about bearing your current cross. In a world where success is emblazoned on the screen of every cell phone thru Instagram, Blog Sites, Twitter, Tumblr, Pinterest and much more, it's hard to remember that our story is literally orchestrated by the sacrifices we are willing to bear. Every single great outcome, comes from many great challenges.

Today I challenge you, my love, to push thru the moments that feel so tough. I know you see the outcome on the other side. That's your faith. Keeping your eyes on the battle right below your feet and trudging your way thru it... That's your faith in action.

I'm okay with my cross. Where I am now isn't where I will be. But that doesn't make me any less valuable. That doesn't make my circumstance any less beautiful. I will honor the experience I am currently in. I will love and give and keep my chin up. I will learn the lessons that prepare me for what's next. I am still beautiful. I am still successful. You hear me? Believe this about yourself today, and with faith in action, also known as bearing your cross you will get to your mountain top.

I love you with all my heart. Outwork your circumstance, cheerfully, with grace and no judgement. God sees you and lifts the heavy burden.

 

Say it with me today, "I'm ok with my cross".

 

With love,

 

Chrisette Michele

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Hey Bestie! | Be Cool with this ONE secret

It's ok to get cooler... The 1 secret to being absurdly cool.

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Hey Bestie,
Ever wonder if it was ok to change and then months later, regret procrastinating because someone you know totally got cooler while you weren't even watching?
I know the feeling. When the BLEEP did my cousins Afro grow into a Diana Ross album cover? And how the heck did my bestie go vegan and loose 20 pounds? What do you mean Mom just got an apartment in the city? Where on Earth have I been and who told them they could make those decisions with out me.
Pull it together Girl! Listen to me clearly. You have the power to give yourself permission to do what ever you want to do. If you're sitting around waiting for someone to tell you, your ideas are AMAZING, you're gonna be waiting a long time!

Here's the truth, everyone isn't watching your journey like you are. Everyone isn't going to take the time out of their day to stop and tell you, "Yo, Chris! You're cool factor has a LOT more potential!".
Get off your "Awkward Black Girl", watching bum and stop whining about how Issa Raye has an HBO series and your YouTube page only has 90 subscribers. I know what it is too... You're afraid to start. I know. I see you boo. It's like you have all these amazing ideas and every time you buy new running shoes you chicken out on the gym membership.
Let me love on you today. (Because, this world is SERIOUSLY LACKING on the love right now...WTH!) You've got some incredible things brewing inside of you. You might look a little awkward or unstable getting your pedicure wet but put one foot in front of the other and dive in! And I'm with you sis, there's nothing less exciting than debuting a new weave on Instagram (BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO FOR A SHOW YOU'RE ADVERTISING) and all of your natural nazi sistah's decide to give you a speech on how much more they like you bald!! I KNOW! Trust me.
You've gotta believe this one secret. Are you ready? You have something to offer. Say it with me, "I have something to offer". Write it down girlfriend, "I HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER". When you are brave enough to believe that, then you will be brave enough to embrace the powerful YOU that God created.

It's not the deepest secret ever written but girlfriend, it's what separates the dooers from the waiters. Believing that your purpose and message is urgent is important. Procrastination sets in when you're wondering if you're enough. Babe!!! Hear me now! YOU ARE!!! I said so!!! Now say so! Even if it looks different. As a matter of fact... I posted a pic of myself in a bathing suit recently and realized that it made other women with curves feel empowered. I procrastinated for days posting it thinking, people will think I'm slutty or thirsty or searching for validation. Are those things true? Nope. And guess what, as afraid as I was of mean comments, negativity and people laughing at my HUGE thighs, I received more love and saw more women feel empowered than I could have ever imagined. I had something to offer.

Be brave. Release your offering and be your version of incredibly friggin cool...TODAY! While the iron's hot!
I love you. I feel you. I'm just keeping it real. You're epic as JAX. Believe that!
Xo,
Bestie in Our Heads...
Chris

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Monday Morning Mantra | "I Will Make Time for What Serves Me"

 

I Will Make Time For What Serves Me

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You've gotta pay attention babe. You've gotta listen to yourself. Your inner man is always asking you for things. It might not be everyday. Maybe your soul is content most of the time.

Me? I ignore myself ALL THE TIME! Chris I'm thirsty, Chris you need a massage, Chris this bag is too heavy, Chris can you be still for like 20 minutes, Chris can you please go to sleep. Oh, I'm just awful to myself sometimes. But I learned something...

A few months ago, I left Hollywood. I told my mom that something was missing. I told her I was ready for marriage & acting. Yup. That's what I said. She was managing me at the time and I asked her not to book any events. I sold all of my things (ask me about that and we'll talk later if you want) and hopped on a plane to moms house. (Well mom & dads house). I headed to Target and got a bunch of cool onesie pajamas and laid out on the mattress in the guest room. I got quiet and told God, "Hey, listen. I've made a lot of mistakes and I haven't been listening. I'm really tired and I'm losing time. Here I am, as quiet as can be, asking that you fill my life with the desires you've given me. I've cleared my life. I've cleared my schedule. I've cleared my closet. I've made room. Fill me up."

Honey when I tell you He heard me? It was as if He was waiting for me to get empty.

I was re-united with & engaged to the man I love today less than a month later. I had to get quiet and empty enough to remember the love and the feelings I had for him. I got my first theatre acting/touring gig 3 months after that. And I've been happily in love, and playing principal roles in plays for an entire year... But I had to listen. I had to get quiet. I had to make room.

Listen. Taking the time to stop and look around as say, "This item isn't serving me anymore", takes courage. For me it was simple things. Shoes, clothing, Los Angeles at the time, my ex-boyfriend. Things and people that I loved dearly but just knew inside didn't serve my purpose. I let them go with the help of loving friends and family. My mother and father sheltered me in what I call "the secret place". (Take a look at a special excerpt in the Bibles book of Psalms chapter 91. It may resonate with you.) There I became filled with the visions and the ammunition to take my life back and shower it with the answers that were given to me when I emptied myself & laid down what didn't belong.

What, my friend, can you let go of? What no longer speaks to you? Is it an outfit you revert to that you don't feel beautiful in but you just put on because it's there? Is it that old lipstick that you stick in your bag for fashion emergencies but it's totally out of style? How about some music that you turn on, but doesn't really put you in a good mood? Or maybe it's a TV show you watch just to be apart of tomorrow's conversation when the truth is, you'd rather be building your new website... I had to let go of somethings. Maybe it's a person. Ouch.

Does that make my old life bad? Of course not. I still adore most of my exes and most of my shoes (that I sold on Poshmark). But for ME, walking away from what didn't serve my inner man, being brave enough to see what did and then offering those good things to myself with out judgement or fear of being judged, made me whole.

Loves of my life listen to me clearly. Serving yourself isn't selfish. It's the opposite. If you are brave enough to let go of what doesn't speak to you anymore, you are able to be of service to what does. Of service. That is your sacrifice... To be of service to what serves you.

Think about it.

I love you endlessly,

Xoxo

-Chrisette Michele

 

PS... There might be someone here who wants to dedicate their lives again or for the first time to the God I've come to know and love. Don't be afraid, I know it can be scary or embarrassing going before Him after making so many mistakes. You're not alone. I go to that place I mentioned, all the time. I'm human. Accepting Christ is my peace. I'm praying for you 💋 open up your heart ❤️ Make time.

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